I do. And while I think “jealous” is a strong word, I definitely get business envy from time to time and find myself comparing my business to the people around me. Social media only makes it worse.
It reminds me of being a kid and only one girl could claim Jem as her favorite. The rest of us had to be one of the other Holograms, but Jem was taken. And really, it was only because my friend Allie claimed her first.
Don’t Get Paralyzed By It
Seeing your business friends consistently churn out great work while you haven’t even sent out a newsletter in 2 months can be paralyzing. And when you’re paralyzed, you’re not able to do your best work, be creative, or collaborate on anything.
“Don’t compare your behind-the-scenes with somebody else’s highlight reel”. This quote by Steven Furtick has been floating around the Internet for a few years, but it’s true.
Unless you are in a really intimate mastermind, or you open up to your close group of entrepreneur friends, you don’t really know what it took for that other person to get where she is. Maybe she doesn’t have kids home with her while she’s trying to work, maybe she doesn’t have a full load of client work and has time to create these things. Maybe she’s better at managing her time. The point is, you don’t know what it took to get her there.
Whatever the reason, feeling this way only does a huge disservice to you and your business. Release that shit and move on. Letting these feelings stick around for too long is counter-productive.
It always keeps you playing small. If you think this person is somehow superior or smarter, your brain is going to find evidence to support that, and you’re going to be paralyzed. Release it.
Write it down. Confide in a friend. Write out 10 reasons you’re amazing but different. Congratulate them on a job well done. Do something else. Don’t let it stop you.
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